3 ways to live, love, and walk alone.
Maybe your significant other left you, maybe your legal guardian kicked you out the house, or maybe you struggle to make friendships. All these have a common denominator, you’re left feeling alone. In reality you might truly be alone, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t feel happiness through this thick and thin part of your life.
This chapter in your life is meant to be, as terrible as it might feel, as scared you might be, this feeling, CHAPTER in your life is meant to be, and meant to pass once you go through it. You gotta go through it, to get to it. I don’t know your exact situation, but I do understand that feeling of being alone. In your spare time you just stay home because you have nobody, maybe you watch a movie but feel too awkward to go alone. Even when you’re working towards building yourself up you are so excited to tell somebody but then look to your left, look to your right and realize, I have nobody who cares to hear about my success and that sucks.
Now you maybe wondering, “well how can I feel happiness when I feel so lonely??” Maybe even think “this is unfair, this is stupid, I’m stupid, why can’t I just feel happy I’m tired of this.” I’m not a therapist, no God, but trust me, if you try just 1 of these things I list, and KEEP AT IT, very important to be disciplined, then your life can start to change for the better
1. ACCEPTING YOUR ALONE TIME, CHERISH IT
Understand that this is meant to be, your alone time, understand it might suck, you might dislike this part of your life and that’s GOOD. You’re feeling something, be grateful for that, be grateful you have all this space to figure yourself out, to learn what you love and don’t love. One day you’ll find your purpose, one day you’ll have your kids soccer game to go to after working your job and 2 pets to love along with your significant other. That sounds like a lot of company and no “YOU” time. This is okay to be alone, what’s or who’s meant to be in your life will be, but cherish this alone time because one day you might have zero time for any.
2. YOU MIGHT FEEL ALONE BECAUSE YOU’VE NEVER LEARNED TO LOVE THAT PERSON IN THE MIRRO
Wake up tomorrow, very first thing you do, before you brush your teeth, before washing your face, and don’t you dare use that phone, look in your mirror, no matter how you look or what you feel, tell yourself I love you. Do that again tomorrow and the next day for at least 30 days, stay disciplined to build discipline and remind yourself you are loved, and you deserve to be happy even if it’s just you.
3. KEEPING A POSITIVE MINDSET
Like everything in this world, live moves on whether you want it to or not. That’s not easy to handle when you feel scared, or alone and not able to think clearly as to what your next step should be. Please keep a positive mindset, don’t say “I’m so lonely” instead say “I’m learning about myself” and in learning it’s a process, you will make mistakes, whether it’s your fault or not they will happen. So keep reminding yourself how important you are, how precious me-time is and how beautiful it can be. Don’t let these negative monster’s be apart of your life, life can still be amazing and happy when you have more than enough me-time than what you know to do with.
I still can struggle with this, and maybe I always will, but I’m proud of the improvements I’ve made, and it will be a work in process for us all, but we will not quit, for as long as we breath we do not quit.
RLP
